on Parenting ....

Namaskarams

Heard this today from Sadhguru on PARENTING : Raise Yourself before You Raise Your Kids !!

http://www.ishafoundation.org/blog/video/parenting-raise-yourself-before-you-raise-your-kids/

Sadhguru looks at how a child needs a friend, not a boss. If we enforce our ideas upon a child, he will lose his sense of independence, and this could result in rebelliousness later on. Once you become a parent, the most important thing is that you have to be 100% straight. You just have to protect them from the wrong influences, the rest let them free, he says. At the same time, they should remain free from your influence, he points out.

Children do not belong to us, they are not our property. Our roles as Mother and Father ended when the biological process of birth happened. The child came "through" us . We were just the medium. The child is also a piece of creation , created by a source outside us. We succumbed to our biological / physiological compulsions and lo and behold we have a child !! At best we lent our sperm/egg and our womb for hosting the child in the prenatal stage. 

What the child needs is a friend, not a parent!!